I asked a guy why he ghosted me. Here’s what happened.

Lady Tall Hair
5 min readMay 19, 2020
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I asked a guy who ghosted me why. Here’s what happened.

In the fall of 2018, I met a wonderful guy whom I dated for a few wonderful months before he ghosted me. I wrote about it for Medium, which made several hundreds of dollars and a Top-Rated Writer for the Love category.

Because of the financial gains and small but important notoriety, I’ve been eternally grateful for him and this experience ever since. I’ve also been heartbroken, more than anything I’ve been confused.

I never understood where it went wrong. Unlike with most guys, there were never any signs that he would suddenly ghost me. I never felt like he didn’t like me. For the six months after things ended, I thought about him constantly (I know, very embarrassing). Specifically, trying to understand what happened. I refrained from reaching out to him because I wanted to maintain my look as a breezy chick who couldn’t be bothered with a little ghost.

After I moved to Denver, I got down to thinking about him once a month or so. Mostly late nights when I was drunk off boxed wine and sad about other stuff in my life. I would think about texting him to ask why but thankfully I was sober enough to take note of the time difference and how bad it would look if I texted at that moment.

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Lady Tall Hair
Lady Tall Hair

Written by Lady Tall Hair

Writer with moxie & anxiety. Unfiltered first-person narratives about dating, sex, and the dark parts of the human experience that connect us all.